Most of the time, when you find a list of the top reasons you need to lose weight, it lists a lot of health reasons, which are all true in most cases. However, the two main reasons people actually lose weight are due to self-esteem and pure vanity. You want to feel better about yourself and you want to look good in and out of your clothes. I’m not saying that there are not people who lose weight for health benefits, there are. However, most of the time, that happens after they have been pushed by a health professional or medical event. So in light of that here are 7 reasons why many you need to lose weight.
Your entire wardrobe is black
Okay, so most women believe wearing black makes you slimmer. You’ve taken that to another level. Everything you have in your closet is black. You are in black clothes bondage. God forbid you buy a yellow dress in the spring…you’d look like the sun! You don’t look twice at orange pants. Those pants would just make your butt and hips look like a big round orange!
Melinda’s response: Black does make you look slimmer. However, if you don’t like the way you look CHANGE IT. Free yourself from black bondage. The seasons change, but the colors of your wardrobe never do. Girl, drop those pounds and brighten up your wardrobe. Brighter clothing has an impact on how you feel. Bright colors make you happy and change your mode. You will be amazed how a brighter outfit makes you feel about yourself.
You won’t let your husband touch you
So you guys have been married for 8 years and together for 10. After the babies and stress, the tight little body you had at the beginning is gone and now you don’t want him to touch you. He still wants to make love to you, but because those babies gave you the kangaroo pouch, you’ve become uncomfortable with him seeing you naked and in your mind, he seeing what you see.
Melinda’s response: You have picked up a few pounds and he has noticed. However, he still loves you and he still wants you…he’s a man okay. However, if you aren’t comfortable about the way that you look then CHANGE IT. Dropping a few pounds will do so much for your self-esteem. You will feel sexier if you lose weight. So just do it girl! Also, your reluctance for intimacy can cause problems in your relationship. And if a man really loves you, he won’t view you as the fat girl you perceive yourself to be, he will just say to himself that my wife has a little more cushin for the pushin!
You never tuck your shirt in or wear belts
Because you know you’d have a muffin top (when your belly hangs over your buttoned pants), you won’t tuck your shirt in. And since you never tuck your shirt in, there is no need for you to wear or purchase a belt. All of the cute dresses that have belts, you don’t wear them because they would expose your waist!
Melinda’s response: If you don’t like the way look CHANGE IT!
Your man runs over and controls you
You have a man, or at least half of a man and he doesn’t completely treat you right. However, because you are overweight and feel that other guys won’t be interested in you, you take all the crap this dude is dishing out because you don’t think you can do any better.
Melinda’s response: First of all, no matter how you look, you have to love yourself first. If you don’t love yourself, you won’t demand that other people do the same. Even if you are overweight, you are worthy to be treated with respect and you should receive all of the love you give away.
All of your clothes are too big
You don’t want to expose any of your fat so you try to buy bigger clothes. You actually wear a size 14, but you always buy 16’s because they just make you feel better.
Melinda’s response: All of these little tactics will not camouflage your weight. Larger clothes actually make you look bigger. It’s crazy how we try to do all of these little things to hide our weight. Aren’t you tired of doing that? Free yourself girl! Lose the weight and get some classy, fitted attire that shows off the fabulous woman you are.
You don’t speak up at work
Many women who are overweight have low self-esteem…wait, let me change that…many women PERIOD, have low self-esteem. However, it is a bit more severe in women who are overweight or women who don’t feel good about the way that they look. Your low self-esteem is stopping you from taking initiative and speaking up at work because you don’t want to be seen. You just want to be quiet and blend in with the background.
Melinda’s response. Your low self-esteem is more than likely a by-product of you being overweight. Not to mention that all of your life, people have constantly told you what you couldn’t do and what you are not. However, if you drop just 10 pounds, you will be able to see small changes in yourself confidence. Your weight doesn’t define you; however, it is a factor in your professional success. Drop some pounds so that mentally, you can start believing in the abilities you already have.
You’re afraid to talk to men
Okay, so I’m old school. When I was single, I wanted the fellas to come to me (I’m happily married now and only one man has my heart). My mom always told us… “Don’t call boys, let them call you. If they want to talk to you they’ll call.” This is true; however, in my older years, I learned that some men are shy and they want to talk to you but they are afraid. So in that case, a woman needs to be slightly assertive. This could never be you. You’re a great person and would be an asset to any guy, but because you are overweight and don’t think you’re good enough, you will never approach guy because you believe all they would see is this fat woman.
Melinda’s response: The only thing I can say about this one that you need to realize your worth and no matter what size you are, you would be an asset to any man’s life.
So, there it is…7 reasons why you need to lose weight. All of these reasons are linked to vanity and self-esteem. It amazing how a person’s mentality changes when they lose weight. When you make up your mind that you are going to eat better and exercise, everything in your life will get better. Your relationships, your self-esteem, your energy levels and of course your overall health. So what are you waiting for? Stop wearing black all the time. Buy a belt and tuck your shirt in. Feel free to let your husband love you. Speak up and get a promotion!
No your weight doesn’t define who you are, but it sure as heck effects how you think about yourself and the confidence you have. So if dropping a few pounds will do all of this, what are you waiting for? I am looking for 10 willing souls to take my 12 week body transformation challenge. If you are up for the challenge and ready to change your life, email me for more information at melinda@libifit.com
Melinda
